I’m starting to wonder if the age of 3 has a tantrum requirement. I’m all about encouraging Aiden’s independence, but, quite frankly, it’s sometimes annoying. I don’t know how to teach him that it’s ok for me to give him his drink, that he doesn’t need to throw himself on the floor in tears if I bring it to him…just because he didn’t get it by himself. Maybe if I ignore the outbursts every now and then, he’ll start to grow out of them. Redirecting him only helps part of the time…
I had a dream last night that a former professor of mine was pregnant. I was talking to her about breastfeeding and asked her if she was planning to nurse. She replied that she was pretty sure she wasn’t going to. I didn’t freak out (except in my mind, of course), but I asked her why. She said that she was planning on returning to work, and I told her that she could still give her baby milk by pumping, etc. Then I told her about the book Nursing Mother, Working Mother. I haven’t read it myself, but I know it’s highly recommended.
Then we got onto the subject of babywearing and she said that slings are stupid. I asked her which slings she’s seen and she’d only seen ring slings, which, I’ll admit, aren’t my favorite. I told her all about pouch slings and mei tais, and she seemed a little bit more interested.
The last thing we talked about was attachment parenting in general. She told me that she thought I was smothering my baby. At this, I got incredibly defensive and went on to give a big spiel about the importance of learning your baby’s communication. I told her that babies, because they don’t have speech, quickly learn to communicate with different pitches & cues. Simon, for example, doesn’t cry unless something is really wrong. It takes him a while to build up to a cry, and for the most part, he only goes, “Mmmm, mmm, mmm” if he’s fussing about something. I can usually figure out what’s wrong before we ever get to the crying. Most days, he doesn’t cry at all.
After I was done with my speech, she appeared to be impressed, like I’d finally shown her “the way.”
I know that I had this dream because of my brother-in-law and their baby-on-the-way. The part about nursing came from the fact that I checked out that book for them to read. I also let them borrow my copies of The Baby Book and The Pregnancy Book by Dr. Sears. Now, I need to admit that I wasn’t familiar with attachment parenting when Corey and Aiden were babies. I thought that babies were supposed to just lie on the floor and play with their toys, eat every few hours on a schedule, sleep in their cribs, and, yes, I even tried crying it out with Corey. I’m almost certain that some of Corey’s behavior problems probably stem from my “mistakes” in parenting. I wish I could go back and try again, but I remind myself that parenting is a learning process and there are things I can do now to try and remedy a few of Corey’s issues.
Now, more than ever, have I become such a hard core advocate of breastfeeding and attachment parenting. It started with my business, yes, but now that I’m seeing first hand how it’s working for us with Simon, I’m more about the cause. If I had more of me, one would be a professional singer, one would be a SAHM, one would be a WAHM, one would be an LLL Leader, one would be a doula, one would be a Bradley instructor, and one would be something else, I’m sure. I have too many passions, I’m afraid, so I need to be careful not to spread myself too thin, which is incredibly easy for me to do lately.